‘Friends, this is an article
I read long back in R D.I thought I must share this with you so that this will
do some help in your day to day life 
and I feel some of my friends will be benefited after reading this[if
only they read]

If somebody criticise you first of all try to
accept  it ,if you cannot accept  it try to top it,if you cannot top it try to
reason it out and if you cannot do any of these, then  probably you may deserve it.’

      Bejamine Franklin remarked ‘only two things in life are
certain;death and taxes’But there is one more unpleasant thing-criticism.No
one escapes it entirely.

       How are we going to react it?

There  are two
kinds of criticism- one is gentle, tactful constructive variety and the other
is blunt, harsh hostile kind.It is easy to react with resentment and anger.But
this makes you more vulnerable.;if all you do is resent your critic, you are
only poisoining yourself.

        The
first step is to force yourself to be dispassionate.But
this is never easy,but it can be done.Be
calm.Believe  in this God-given inner
calm, he is not likely to be disturbed by any man made storms.Bible
says’pray for your critics,bless them that hurt you’.Try it ,it does relieve
the hurt.Great people have always been criticised.If you are determined to get
things done ,especially if you blaze new path,you are going to encounter
hostility and opposition.The greatest man who ever walked this earth was
bitterly criticised.

        The
second step in coping with criticism is to be
–rational.Take up the criticism and examine it objectively.’We learn much from the disagreeable things people say,
for they make us think;where as the good things only make us glad' told by Theodor
Leschetizky.How correctly said! Ask yourself honestly if there is any truth in
the criticism.Beware of self excuse  or
rationalizations; if you give into these you may just compound the original
error.If you feel whatever the critics say is correct then accept it.,admit
it.After all if you agree with him what more he can say?Examine the qualification of your critic.Is he reputable
and sincere?If so, you had better not dismiss his words at
once.Dignified silence is often the best reply to slander.If criticism is false
and damaging,you must reply to it.

          When
criticism finally reaches your ears, it may well have become exaggerated.There
are always people who enjoy the excitement and will add oil in the flame.So better re-examine it before reacting.

      Gossip is
nothing but criticism motivated by jealousy or insecurity.But it is true that
we all gossip at some level.That is because we all are human.

         As Disraeli remarked,’It is much easier to be critical
than correct’-so there will be plenty of critics in the world,some well
intentioned ,others cruel..You can defend yourself against the unkind ones by
learning to control your emotional reactions,by adopting a calm and rational
attitude and by honestly trying to help your critics to rid themselves of
their anger.But your best defence is your own day-to-day conduct.It
is  keeping your moral standards high.